potential.

I see the best in you, but when I see the worst,

It’s the worst. –Amberly Moore

So the scenario goes, gal meets guy; guy is smart, funny, and ambitious all while still managing to look good.

He’s got your attention.  And did I mention he’s got ambition, because ain’t nothing better than a man on a mission.  He compliments you on your style while complementing your style.  Wow.

So what’s the catch? There’s always a catch you say.  No catch; the guy has all the potential in the world to be…great.

But…this is where the road diverges.

Maybe your potential has trust issues.  Fell in love with a six-inch walker, and she walked all over his heart.  Did him wrong, to say the very least.  Now he thinks every girl is trifling and full of it, a true male version of “Diary of a Mad Black Woman”.  He’s got a past and no matter what he says or doesn’t say, he hasn’t gotten pass it.

Or maybe he’s “stuck in his ways”, can’t let go of that life; what life you ask, that life of a different girl every night.  He likes you, a lot, but whether it is his image/reputation/status he wants to uphold and/or pressure from his bruhs, he can’t help but feel like he’ll miss out on something if he throws away the roster.  Gotta have the team, right?

Or wait, maybe you and he, he and you, are so much alike that it’s dangerous.  Ya’ll click, got that easy conversation; but ya’ll clash, stubbornness, attitudes and personality get the best of you two.  It could all be so simple, but you’ve come to believe that ya’ll like it hard.  The back and forth, the on and off, it’s become a game of cat-and-mouse through subliminal messages and childish actions.  If this is your situation, you know how it goes.

And in each situation you want out, but you can’t.  You know too much about him now; you see the man he can be and you want to be there for the whole ride no matter what bumps, blocks or detours come along.  “Till the wheels fall off”, that’s how the saying goes right?  And there’s absolutely nothing wrong with that.  Life is hard, relationships are damn hard.  The good relationships ARE the ones that have sustained the ups and downs, smiles and frowns, pleasure and pain, sunshine and rain…and category 6 hurricanes (it gets real).

But let’s rewind because this isn’t ya’ll; ya’ll are still at the stage of potential.  Going on and on about what he SHOULD BE saying/doing, what he WOULD BE saying/doing if it wasn’t for he/she/it, and what/who he COULD BE if it wasn’t for he/she/it.  And then you’re stuck with the dreaded “shoulda-woulda-coulda” theory with TOO many variables and no solutions.

STOP. YOU CANNOT CHANGE ANYONE.  And quite frankly, you shouldn’t want to be with someone you can.  He has to acknowledge who he is and who he wants to be and who he can be for…HIMSELF.  If you’re forcing the relationship or the commitment or the change, your plan WILL backfire and explode right before your very eyes.  Stop accepting anything but don’t expect anything to change because you’re ready.  Until he is ready, nothing you say or do will change your situation.  Potential is a chance, an option, what changes that is when one realizes they are more than just an option.

--Amberly Moore<3

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Evaluation of Predicted Fashion Trends - Color – Fall 2010

As we say farewell to the sun filled days of Summer, we are just beginning to open our eyes and wake up to the warmth of Fall. Leaves will descend from its branches, the Summer heat will fade, and the burst of warm/cool colors will take over the environment. While the season of Fall begin to set in, fashion will run it’s coarse into a new direction. Shorts will turn into leggings, sandals will turn into flats, and skin that was once bare because of skimpy string bikinis, will now be covered with layers and layers of clothing. Colors that was once acceptable during the summer, will now fade away into the past, bringing the trendy Fall colors into existence.

Renaissance Festival

This Fall, colors will travel in a time machine and reach back to the Renaissance era. Think of rusted medieval colors of browns, reds, plums and olives. All of the neutral colors will be blended and reintroduced with gold’s and metallic’s, creating a ‘Robin-hood’ story book of colors. Forest colors will dominate along with earthly tones, giving a reflection of sensibility to nature with a modern twist. Colors such as Purple Orchid, Chocolate Truffle, Woodbine, Golden Glow, and Lipstick Red will be displayed throughout the fashions of this season




As retailers begin to unravel Fall previews of fashion, it’s very evident that the ‘Renaissance’ theme has taken place. I’ve seen the color pantones in retailers such as Express, BeBe, and Arden B. The color trends that are currently taking place in stores now, was amazingly accurate to the predicted color trends of Fall 2010. Gold’s and Plum’s almost dominated, along with the shades of black and grey. I think this will be more acceptable in the professional environment because the colors are safe and have a feel of maturity. Women will glow, and feel confident wearing these colors.

1940’s Hollywood Glam

There’s nothing like the colors of the 1940’s Hollywood Glam, such as; silky tones of coral, and light grey’s with black. Colors have resurfaced from the 40’s and will take place during the rise of the Fall 2010 season. We will see colors such as masculine grey’s and blacks, coffee browns, and soft fluorescent pink’s and blues. This reminds me of old black and white movies that had a soft look to them with stunning glares. The fall season will be made up of Pantone colors such as; Oyster Grey, Rose Dust, Crown Blue, Zephyr, and Twilight Mauve.



I find it so amazing how much of the predicted trends for this season are so accurate! Once again the predicted colors for this season are very apparent in the retails stores. The BCBG MAXAZRIA Herve Leger Pre-Fall 2010 line had an abundance of the 1940’s inspired color looks. Dresses are in rich shades of greys, blue’s, pastel pink’s, black, and plum’s. This color trend will amaze consumers, and will be adopted easily. I can see this particular color trend in the night life; women will have fun using these flirtatious colors to inspire a great night out in the city, just as an elegant 1940’s Hollywood star would have.

Industrial Construction

Last year fashion trends primarily focused on the hardships of the economy, currently we’re in the process of CHANGE. We are rebuilding our economy and moving past those hardships of the economy. What better way to express this notion than to have colors related to the new construction we will face? When you think of construction, you think of rusty industrial machines that are used to build or the shades of green and brown when the earth is broken to be replaced by a tall grey and shiny industrial building. You may even think about the garnished blues in the overall’s that are worn by construction workers. All of these thoughts play a part in what to expect for this season in colors.




Colors such as “somber, subtle neutrals composed of inky blue, iron gray and taupe brown” , also additional colors of “greenish beige, dark bronze, teal blue, violet” will be available in different styles to consumers this Fall.

Retailers that carry more of the casual looks such as ForeverXXI, Banana Republic, and Hollister have this certain color trend available to consumers. The color trend will most likely be used to fit in the relaxed and comfortable category and will be targeted to students and mid-range adults. I can see this trend dominating the youth market because it’s relatable to their living styles. The colors seem to give a welcoming invitation to relaxation and chill & mellow times with your best buds in study hall.



Photo Credits:

"WOMEN'S TRENDS F/W 2010-11 FASHION SNOOPS ." Infomat Trends

"The Must-Have Color Trends For Fall 2011." Fashion Trendsetter.

Help for the helpLESS..

“ADVICE is what we ask for when we ALREADY know the answer,

But wish we didn’t”—Erica Jong

Let’s be honest, no one really wants advice.

Seriously, whether it is from our parents, siblings, a bestfriend or our homegirl/boy; we listen to what they have to say, but 9 times out of 10 what they have to say simply aggravates us even more.

And why, why is it that we even ask for advice, if in all actuality we’re not even trying to hear it?

Simple.  Because ADVICE is merely the ANSWER we ACKNOWLEDGED all along, but have yet to ACCEPT.  That is, until someone like that bestfriend comes ALONG, points out the problem, EVEN gives solutions (like the puzzle is that easy to solve), and begins to subconsciously judge you for not acting on this sooner.

It’s HUMAN NATURE.  We’re all guilty of it (both ends of the spectrum).  We KNOW what the problem is, even, the answer, but hearing it from others makes it vivid, evident, and that’s when it begins to become A PROBLEM.

So why bother?  Why help someone who doesn’t want to be helped?  Well, that’s where things begin to get complicated.  Because it’s not that the person doesn’t want to be “helped”, but that they need to be encouraged.  They NEED to know that “things will be okay” and “get better”.  To them, you are the punching bag as they vent, who is simply supposed to stand there and take it.  No judgments, no expectations, and definitely no confrontations because they get enough of that on the home front.

Well, here’s where I add my 2 cents..

As my mother used to say, “Sometimes you have to let that baby touch the stove for themselves, telling them it’s hot only makes them want to do it more!”

Help for the helpless is hopeless.  One must live to learn and can only do that by learning to live.  You can’t help someone who doesn’t want to help themselves, and honestly, should not feel liable to do so.  Until that person is Able to Acknowledge the Actions Ahead of them and Accept it, nothing you say will matter.  Harsh? No, not at all.  It’s the TRUTH.  All you can do is give your stance on the situation and wait for them to come to their own personal understanding (hopefully, not too little too late).  Be there for them, tell them what they DON’T want to hear and leave it alone.  Either they will learn from it or learn to continue to live the lie.

Amberly Moore

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I'M ON TO YOU BUDDY..OUR LOVE WAS NOT A SECRET..

HERE’S A SCENARIO: THERE WAS A GIRL WHO WAS SWEET AS CAN BE..SHE MET A BOY WHO WOOED HER TO HER FEET. NOW SHE THOUGHT HE WAS PERFECT.

He “glammed” her, made her feel like she was the only one but she soon found out that their love was not a secret. The boy who we will named “Joe”, the girl who we will name “Nicki”, was spreading his love below to almost every big booty girl he could lay his eyes on. Although she has had her own intuition she doubted it…
LADIES: DON’T EVER DOUBT YOUR FEMALE INTUITION; YOU’RE SMARTER THAN YOU THINK.
Anyway back to the story, Nicki built up enough courage to leave Joe alone. Of course she had ill feelings about it all, somewhere in her heart she still had feelings for him. Yeah of course she thought she was in love, but to find out he cheating was the surest form of humility. Time passes YESSSS! She takes him back but it’s only a physical thing..But Nicki slowly disconnects her love from Joe. Months later Joe tries to woe his way back in her life…now it turns out that Nicki is no longer the sweet girl he once knew. Her spirit was damaged. Confidence was down.but she still had her smile. Permanently left with a F U attitude towards men.

Now my question is…

WHY DO SOME MALES “DOG” OUT THE GOOD ONES WHILE TRYING TO GAME EVERY “HOE” THEY KNOW? AND WHY DO SOME MALES LATER ON TRY TO PURSUE THE GIRL THEY “DOGGED” OUT..?

IT SEEMS TO BE POPULAR PHENOMENON AMONGST SOME MALES… SPEAKING FROM EXPERIENCE.

Brittany L Peters “females get your power back”

When A Heart Break’s….No It Don’t Break Even

We’ve all been there. HeartBroken. After a rough break-up, over something YOU THOUGHT WOULD LAST FOREVER. What makes it worse is when the other always seems to be over it within a heartbeat, when your heart hasn’t taken its first pump.

Been.There. AT THAT PLACE NOW

It’s been a struggle, not gonna lie. I mean, you give your heart to person, and the love is powerful, and it’s CLOUD 9 from there. Then in a moment, it’s THE END.

How do you HEAL?

How do you FORGET?

How do you MOVE ON?

FIRST, you have to realize it’s over, and take it in for what it is….A LEARNING EXPERIENCE. We are all guilty for wanting to hold on to something that you know can’t possibly work, and it only continues to damage our well being, and slows down the healing process. SECOND, keep in mind the world isn’t over! Just because you’re experiencing heartache at the moment, doesn’t mean you can never find love again in the future. Surround yourself with friends, find a hobby, find some empowering music, and get to know YOURSELF! In a relationship, we can at times focus on the other person way too much, and at times we lose ourselves. Take a moment to reconstruct your heart by committing to that special person, YOU. LASTLY, always have a positive attitude! Bitterness doesn’t look good on anyone; yes it’s going to take time to forgive, but we must let go. Running the other persons’ name through the dirt to others won’t solve anything either. Be GROWN about yours.

By all means, these steps are not easy; it’s going to take some time. Get to that happy place in your life, ENJOY BEING SINGLE; it can be a BEAUTIFUL THING.

"The longest relationship we'll ever have is the one we have with ourselves. So don't be afraid of being alone." -- Sierra L. Mink

Much Luv

CabrinaRachae

image via sodahead

Monica - Believing In Me ( with lyrics )

So a couple of months ago I was on my monthly “new music” search (I’m a music junkie!) and came across Monica’s latest album. Now I don’t know about ya’ll, but when I first give an album a spin, I kind of just run through the songs checking out the beat/tone of the song to see if it’s going to be something I play all the way through, or one of those albums where you skip-to-my-loop throughout it. Monica did not let me down.

I got to song #10. And stayed there. I literally played the song 20 times that day (my roommate was probably in her room saying “is there something wrong with her ipod deck?!”)

fast-forwarding to NOW. I found it only fitting to make this my first official blog. This song represents a part of NOT.USER.FRIENDLY so vividly. It represents the ability to accept yourself and worth, the ability to trust and believe in SELF when no one else does, to recognize reality and only accept REAL and to have the strength and courage to move on, let go…and let God.


“NEVER lose sight of who you are and WHOMS you are.

If YOU can’t see it, don’t expect others to.”—ADM (Yours Truly)

allow me to i n t r o d u c e...

Greetings!

For those who don't know me, my name is Amberly Moore.
I just thought I would introduce myself before I start hitting you all with that REAL.

LOL..BUT SERIOUSLY. =)

I'm soo ready to get this up and running and talk about everyday things going on in the world...country..and home.

So W E L C O M E.  I hope this blog makes you laugh, smile, cry, b!tch (hey, it gets real)...but most of all I hope it makes you...THINK.

Love you all,

Amberly Moore<3